Peer Support

Men don’t need to be “fixed.”
They need spaces where they don’t have to perform.

Where strength doesn’t require silence.
Where uncertainty doesn’t threaten identity.
Where they can speak without strategizing.

People Are the Curriculum

You won’t learn everything you need from performance metrics.
You won’t find your edges in strategy alone.
And you won’t resolve relational struggles by thinking harder.

People are not distractions from your work.
They are part of it.

They are mirrors.
They are teachers.
They are feedback loops you can’t replicate on your own.

One of Darby’s deepest beliefs—rooted in both her personal history and leadership experience—is that love is not the opposite of power; it’s what keeps power from becoming destructive.

You don’t slow down because things are easy.
You slow down because complexity requires perspective. The full picture is never visible at full speed. Slowing down gives you access to the wider context: what to release, what to protect, what to rebuild, and what no longer deserves your energy. It is how you move from survival mode back into leadership.

This is not about doing less.
It’s about seeing more.

And in moments that define your leadership, seeing more is the advantage that matters most.

Her core belief is that leaders are rarely taught how to emotionally endure these stretches, even though endurance—not brilliance—is often what’s required.